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YLs Unwelcome in VK Ham Radio

September 12, 2016


Yesterday, I had the most awful experience I’ve ever had. It confirmed for me a number of things

  1. Women are not truly welcomed by many men in tech pursuits
  2. Strong women who speak up or dare have an opinion are doubly unwelcome
  3. Privilege is completely invisible to those who possess it
  4. Privilege is measured by the number of the following boxes you can tick.
  • white
  • male
  • educated
  • rich
  • heterosexual
  • cisgender
  • grew up in large city
  • ….and more

Unfortunately I can tick fewer of those boxes than many people. What is important about these boxes is that most are beyond our own control, we are born with or without them. Once we’re born without them we have a harder time ticking the others like education. Not being able to tick these boxes affects every part of our lives.

By contrast those born with privilege, never have to acknowledge it even exists, they are blind to it, but they have a choice when someone points it out to them. They can choose to be extremely vulgar aresholes like I encountered yesterday, or they can choose to analyse their behavior and modify it.

Some men in this country are so damaged by the societal construct of masculinity that I hold out little hope for any form of equity ever.

(VK = Australia. YL is shorthand for young lady, first used to speed up morse code conversations. Interestingly a woman becomes old (XYL) when she marries- assuming her country allows her to marry but that is another story. Men for some reason are OM old men always.)

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  1. September 12, 2016 at 11:43 pm

    Sorry to hear that you had a bad experience on the air Kimberly, I know of another YL that will not get on the air (HF) for the same reasons.It`s a shame that some of the older members of the hobby seem to think that they should have the airways to themselves.

    It`s not only YL`s that cop it, Iv`e had my share of abuse as an F call as well, probably not to the extent that you have had by the sound of it, but demeaning all the same. At a time when the numbers of radio operators in this country is declining, the attitude of some of the older members of the hobby needs to change, otherwise the number of new members (especially females) to the hobby will only decline.

    I hope that you do not tar all males with the same brush, the truly vulgar ones are few & far between & hopefully will become extinct in the coming generations.

    73`s, Doug

    • vk2kmi
      September 12, 2016 at 11:47 pm

      Hi Doug,

      It wasn’t on air, it was cyber bullying of a horrifying and sickening nature, including death threats. As I said it points to a deeper problem of masculinity


      • vk2kmi
        September 12, 2016 at 11:48 pm

        BTW The truly vulgar ones numbered more than 20 people…so while I do not tar all with the same brush, there are sufficient of them to make me feel entirely unsafe.


  2. Suzanne
    September 12, 2016 at 11:44 pm

    It is sadly a common story. I’ve been a motorcyclist for my entire adult life. I’m currently avoiding the group rides, and social functions because I just know what is going to happen when I turn up. I’ve seen it before……..

    For quite a few men a motorcycle offers them an extension to their masculinity. In many respects society agrees. To these people a big strong man becomes instantly bigger, stronger more manly the second he throws his leg over a large capacity motorcycle. They believe it projects, amplifies and enhances their machismo, and by extraction, their sensation of privilege is boosted too.

  3. Petra
    September 14, 2016 at 1:13 am

    I am terribly disheartened to read about what you have gone through. I have had one person swear at me over the phone who is in the hobby using a few choice words to call me something. I can’t imagine how much it would sting for so many people to be so vicious, all in the comfort and safety behind their screens. Some people have no class or soul for that matter. If it was via FB then you have every right to report them to FB, each and every one of them should be reported especially with threats of that nature. You hang in there (hugs)

  4. Devi Ate
    September 15, 2016 at 12:24 am

    Smokers when they give up, seem to hate other smokers. Seems the same thing happens when you give up being a man too.

    • vk2kmi
      September 15, 2016 at 12:30 am

      Thanks for your IP address Bill!

      Bet you never expected your comment to be approved.

      I never was a man ever. I have lots of wonderful male friends who don’t need to put women down to feel themselves manly. Repressed gender disphoria or repressed homosexuality yourself?


  5. vk2kmi
    September 15, 2016 at 1:23 am

    Getting closer
    Geolocation data from IP2Location (Product: DB6, updated on 2016-9-6)

    IP Address Country Region City
    Australia New South Wales Young
    ISP Organization Latitude Longitude
    Telstra Internet Not Available -34.313499450684 148.30107116699

  6. vk2kmi
    September 15, 2016 at 1:53 am

    Culprit located. I am betting on repressed trans or homosexuality.Hope you find a way to overcome your internalised homophobia or transphobia mate. Must be tough living in Young NSW a small place and having worked in your field without being accepted for who you really are. I wish you well.

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